If you have recently given birth, or your child or children are older, you may have experienced traumatic birth/s, where you felt early on or even sometime or much later on, depression, anger, a sense of loss, recurrent nightmares, flashbacks, and pain in your body longer after.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) has only recently been recognised in the last ten years as most likely experienced by women who have had a birth where it was not as expected; caesarean, forceps, drugs, episitotomy, procedures you never gave consent for, or even post-partum care where a comment from a care giver went straight to your core; you were not honored or respected as a woman giving birth. You may love your baby or child but sense there is more to it; that your relationship with them could be more.
Trauma can extend to the conception, pregnancy and post-natal experiences that may contribute to your feelings of loss, or perhaps disconnection. For example, you may be comfortable with your birthing experience, but trying to breastfeed was extremely difficult.
I have recently further developed my work to include traumatic birth recovery and healing utilising kinesiology, visualisation, imagery, affirmations, and bach flowers that may heal you and improve the bond with your child.
First we debrief your birthing experience, break it down in to manageable parts, and using a variety of methods we facilitate the healing by integrating the experience into the present, in a way that is individual to you.
I am very passionate about this, and so far am having great results. In our current birthing culture, I think that it is unacceptable for women to feel as if they need to "fall on the cross" to have a child, to sacrifice their bodies and minds and spiritual peace for the end result of having a healthy baby; I think we can do well, and become confident mothers when we are really well supported and in a non-judgemental environment.
Ways to heal:
1. Give yourself plenty of time and rest, nutritious food. Be kind to yourself; you did not create your negative birthing experience, nor have you failed. Bach Flower Rescue Remedy may give some relief.
2. Talk to those that will listen and be empathetic, this is real for you.
3. See www.birthrites.org - this is a great Australian website for support.
4. Be mindful of the media that you expose yourself to, this can bring up flashbacks.
5. Obtain your hospital records through Freedom of Information(FOI) so that you can debrief and understand exactly what happened. A midwife can talk with you about this.
6. Seek out relaxation/bodywork therapies that suit you. Understand that not everyone will know what you are feeling or are familiar with PTSD in relation to birth.
7. Get out and about, exercise will help with the feelings of anger and depression and the thoughts that get caught in a loop
8. Know that you will be healed and find joy in your baby, yourself and family.
Kinesiologist, Birth Attendant who believes that living in harmony with the earth lies in conscious thinking, and living that philosophy daily makes for a sacred life. Paying attention to your inner world is essential to nurturing oneself and is just as valid as exploring and striving to understand the outer world.